MOTHERSHIP OF WORK

Want to become succesful? Learn to say no.

by Anni Karjala –

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The modern work culture is all about saying yes, yes & yes. You might be working in a small organization, where there’s little room for declining tasks, or still trying to figure out what you want to do with your life. In these cases saying no can be a real dealbreaker. Nevertheless, mastering the art of declining is essential for success.

The tidal wave of change has filled the business world with endless possibilities. There’s no limits to what you can do. In addition to being super exciting, this environment also presents many challenges.

Accepting every opportunity you’re offered easily leads to having too many tasks. Us humans aren’t very good at multitasking, and trying to handle too many projects easily harms the ones you most care about.

A crucial factor boosting the yes-culture is social media. It constantly backs our depiction that everyone else has a million cool projects ongoing – which of course is only a façade. No wonder fear of missing out has become a major driver in decisions we make. FOMO is the cardinal sin of our networked reality, and saying no is the salvation.

FOMO is the cardinal sin of our networked reality, and saying no is the salvation.

How to go about it?

  • Prioritize, and be harsh with it. Identify what’s important, and what’s not. Before you can say no with confidence, you have to be clear on what you want.
  • Take time and research an idea before you say yes or no. Try to look at the opportunity critically. Put yourself in the shoes of your best friend, and consider how they would advise you with the decision.
  • Say no to the request, not the person. Fear of conflict might sabotage your ability to say no. That’s why it’s important to underline you’re not turning down on your colleague or whoever making the request, but the idea or proposition. Communicate your reasons to say no.

And most importantly, be prepared to miss out. Don’t let fear of missing out dictate your decision making. In life it’s natural to miss out on some things to be able to experience others– that’s what being human is about. Get used to the thought that you can’t have it all, you just get the parts that really matter to you.

MOW is a working community where saying NO - among so many other things - is so totally okay!